Social Media led us to believe that having a huge friends list is a great idea. I think it’s a bad idea. Our “friends” in social media is a list of people who we communicate with, or want to hear from.
Look at it this way, if your friends list has everyone on Twitter who follows you, you’re not getting value from Twitter. I narrowed down who I want to follow to see the tweets of people I communicate with. Some, I don’t, but I find their tweets interesting.
On Facebook, I originally connected with more than a few people. Now, I only accept connections from people who I have a reason to connect with. If people want to see my messages, they should like my fan page (Which I haven’t done a great job promoting).
I’m sure some readers will see this as being a bit of an elitist, but it’s not. If you really want to connect with me (for a specific purpose) than send a tweet or message me. Don’t connect with me because you want me to follow you back, or like your page.
Social Media is far beneficial when you don’t look at it as a “popularity” contest and more of a communication tool. I’ve met up with friends all over the country (didn’t know they were in the same place) using social media to connect.
I would never see the tweets and Facebook posts of my friends and contacts if I simply followed everyone. That would make these tools useless and I would be missing out on the original purpose of the tool.
The Friends List Has Purpose
The Friends list has a purpose. It’s suppose to make communicating easier with those who you have a relationship with. If you don’t have a relationship with me, don’t follow me. I’m not following you back just to build a list.
Simply put, I enjoy conversing with others, especially people who I’ve never chatted with before, but I’m not interested in cluttering my timelines with useless information.